The first week at home with the kids

So how is everyone feeling after the first week at home with the kids? I know some might have had them home earlier, and some homeschool all the time. But I think for most of us, at least in England where I live, this was week 1. So how’s it been?

Still having problems with Lily’s ear

It’s gone fairly well for us. The only real problem we’ve had is Lily is still complaining of pain in her ear. She seems fine the majority of the day, but come night time it’s a different story. She has woken up crying every night this week. Jack has coped with it really well, a few times he seems to have slept hrough it. 

One time I went to check on Jack he was awake playing on his Nintendo Switch. It was around 4am. I asked him if Lily woke him up, he nodded yes. I asked him if he was alright, he nodded yes again. He was clearly tense, but he was managing to hold it together, which is really good.

Last night didn’t go so well. Lily woke up crying again, and this time I could hear straight away, Jack throwing things around his room. I went to check him and he had a real look of distress on his face and tears in his eyes. I tried to reassure him, but he just threw things at me, I told him Lily was ok, and left him for a few minutes. When I checked he had calmed down enough to be sat on his bed. It was just one disturbed nights sleep to far.

It’s a frustrating time, due to the situation getting a doctors appointment is near impossible, so you speak to one on the phone and they are guessing what’s wrong. She’s on her second antibiotic now. Fingers crossed this one works. The situation is difficult enough, without that added stress.

Things have generally been good

The day times have generally been good, during the first week at home with the kids. Jack and Lily both seem to be enjoying being at home. They’ve had some fun doing different activities. Jack has been a bit argumentative, which was to be expected, but has been calmer than he was during the recent school holidays. We’ve not pushed him with doing school work. He’s never had any homework, so he’s not understanding why he suddenly has to do work at home. So I’ve got a few ideas for him to learn using things he’s interested in.

Lily didn’t do any work the first few days, I thought it right to give her some time to adjust to what was going on. Then she started doing the work by herself. I’ve seen people trying to be teachers, and it’s almost like a competition with some people on social media. I don’t understand that way of thinking myself. I’m more interested in my children’s well being, than I am making sure they get all the work sheets done.

We are lucky to have a decent bit of garden space, so the kids can get out there for a bit of fresh air and some exercise. They’ve been out everyday, with the exception that Jack didn’t want to go outside yesterday. 

I’m doing ok

I’m holding up alright. I am concerned about the effect of a prolonged lockdown on my depression, but I’m doing fine. I’ve actually enjoyed having the kids home for the most part. Ask me if I still am in 3 or 4 weeks, then maybe my answer will be different, but so far I’m feeling good. I’ve been spending a lot of time at home anyway over the past year, so one week without going out doesn’t bother me. If it becomes 4, 5, 6 weeks, then it will be a different story.

The first week at home with the kids then, up to now it’s been pretty good, everyone’s fit and well, and as long as that’s the case I don’t want to complain about anything else. I hope it’s going as well for everyone else. Families living with autism have extra pressures, and this a really difficult time. But it is difficult for all families. So I say to everybody, stay safe and stay well.

My name is Adam. I live with my partner Natalie, and our 2 children Jack and Lily. Both children are autistic, it is now my mission to show what life around autism is like. Spread the awareness and gain the acceptance that autistic people deserve.

10 thoughts on “The first week at home with the kids

  • March 29, 2020 at 6:49 pm
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    Times are rough at the moment and I hope Jack and Lily are enjoying their time at home. And please stay strong and safe.
    I hope this gets over soon so everyone can get back to their daily lives.

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  • March 29, 2020 at 9:06 pm
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    It’s not easy on most, and I see there were a couple of times in which the prolonged confinement had some kind of effect on the family. Well, I’m right there with them. Only the desktop in my bedroom is able to connect to my job, so now I spend 8:30-5:30 in the same room I use for resting. I’m going stir crazy!!! My kingdom (ha-ha) for some virus-free excursion time! But, nooooo… In closing, I continue to wish the best for you and your family. Stay strong and keep faith that this pandemic will pass.

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    • March 29, 2020 at 10:14 pm
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      Thank you 😊

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    • April 10, 2020 at 5:52 pm
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      Hang in there! This is new for all of those, even stay at home parents who usually get some respite when the kids are at nursery/school. I know that as long as everyone in the household is happy and healthy that’s all that matters, but you need it to be relatively enjoyable too!

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      • April 10, 2020 at 7:23 pm
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        Thanks,it’s been a bit up and down, but making things enjoyable has certainly been really important to keep everyone going.

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  • March 31, 2020 at 1:06 pm
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    It’s certainly challenging times, stay strong and keep safe!!

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    • March 31, 2020 at 6:31 pm
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      Thank you 😊

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  • April 10, 2020 at 3:40 pm
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    Incredible points. Sound arguments. Keep up the good work.

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  • May 4, 2020 at 11:50 pm
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    I’ll say that in the beginning I lost some hair and it was very hard. Now that some time has passed and my autistic son is finally starting to readjust its gotten a little better, the only hard thing is he has his nights and days all mixed up! I wish you the best for you and your family. Just hang in there, it will get better soon!

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    • May 5, 2020 at 7:53 am
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      Thank you 😊 it’s certainly been interesting. Mixing up days and nights sounds a difficult one to deal with.

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