Anyone else starting to crack up?

Anyone else starting to crack up?

So it’s basically been 2 weeks of everyone being at home, and not being able to go out. So the question I want to ask is, anyone else starting to crack up? Or is it just me? I’ve got a lot of things I can be getting on with to pass the time, but for the last couple of days I’ve struggled for motivation.

What really hit home yesterday, was I saw it in Lily for the first time. She didn’t want to go outside, she didn’t want to do much of anything. She just sort of moped about, looking fed up. I was in a funny moody, Natalie and the kids would tell you I was being annoying. Basically I was making silly noises, and doing stupid things. It’s something I do quite a lot, I get a sort if release from it. Yesterday was over the top and I got on everyone’s nerves.

In the end we went for a little drive around locally. I’m not sure where you stand with just having a bit of a drive. We didn’t get out anywhere, we just had a bit of a drive. Is that ok? I’m not really sure, but I needed to see some different scenery for my sanity. Everyone else felt the same, and I personally felt much better when we got back. I think everyone did. Jack has started to get more and more agitated, by not being able to follow his normal routines. He’s become very argumentative, but we are just about keeping a lid on it. I just wish I had some answers for him, the uncertainty is the worst part for everybody. For Jack it is even more of a problem.

So is anyone else starting to crack up? Or are you doing ok so far? If you are starting to feel it, what are you doing to try and cope with it? Any ideas are welcome, please leave a comment below.

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Will the kids be going to school?

Will the kids be going to school?

It’s been a long and stressful week. Mostly around one Question. Will the kids be going to school or not? For some, that question was answered on Wednesday, and at least the situation was clear. We however were in the group of people, where things remained unclear and confusing.

Jack’s situation

Jack has an EHCP and attends a SEN school, which put him in the group that would still go to school. So that makes thing clear right? Wrong! Two days of mixed messages, uncertainty and confusion coming from all quarters. I thought he was staying in school, then I thought he was going to be staying home from today. Finally this afternoon the decision was made that he would stay going to school.

His whole class are staying in school, and we decided for the sake of his routine he will still go. He’s already shown signs that he’s worried about what’s going on. To pull him out of school now, would escalate that and not be good for him. So unless we need to self isolate, it’s business as usual.

Lily’s situation

It’s been just as complicated and stress with Lily. First I though, she finishes school on Friday and that’s it. Then because we have a disability social worker, we thought we were expected to send her to school. We tried to get clarification on this, and we had to wait for answers. Basically no one was really sure what we were meant to do.

The answer came back today. Lily is now off school, but we can send her into school if Jack is at home and struggling. For example, if his anxiety was causing him to be excessively violent, causing the home environment to be dangerous. With Jack at least for now still going to school, that’s not an issue.

How’s everyone finding the situation?

I know it’s not just us, and this is a stressful time for everyone. Will the kids be going to school? Has been the question on all parents minds this week. Lily’s school have sent some work home for her, but the question of how to keep her busy, entertained and still learning is the one that now weighs heavy. At least I know art will keep her happy. How is everyone else feeling? How are you going to keep your kids busy? Any ideas are most welcome. Drop them in the comments.

A Difficult Few Days

A Difficult Few Days


It’s been a difficult few days. Lily has had an ear infection, which has involved a lot of crying and not much sleep. Lily has been sleeping in our room, as it’s further away from Jack. It seems to have worked as Jack’s sleep doesn’t seem to have been disturbed. 

On Saturday night Jack asked to go to his Grans with Natalie, while I helped Lily get to sleep. He said he wanted Lily to be able to cry without worrying about upsetting him. Bless him, it was such a nice thing to do. Jack is so kind and thoughtful, but in a meltdown situation that all goes out of the window.

For him to think ahead for the good of himself and others, is such a big step that he is starting to do. He’s had his moments over the last few days, he trashed his room once and has got upset a few times. But generally he has coped really well given the circumstances.

Isolation and routine change

Jacks at respite tonight, he definitely needs the break and so do I. I’m worried that the respite will end up stopping soon, or we end up having to self isolate. Which of course means no school, I’m surprised the schools are still open. I don’t think they will be for much longer.

All that means routine goes out of the window. Jack especially finds routine change extremely difficult, I’ve talked before about school holidays being a problem. So a sudden unexpected change is likely to be very problematic. Whatever happens we will just have to deal with it the best we can. It’s been a difficult few days, but we carry on.

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