Family Check Up

I’ve been busy with my editing the website, doing what I call “proper” blog posts about specific subjects. Plus trying to master Pinterest, so I thought it was about time I did a “family check up”. This blog started with me just talking about how we are all doing, and what we’ve been up to. I’ve learnt a lot about blogging, and writing blog posts since then.

However, I still do just want to do the posts where I’m talking about what’s been going on in our life’s. So let’s have this “family check up”.

Family check up

School

We will start with the major one. Jack is back at school full time. It feels really weird, and I don’t know if I am comfortable with it yet. He was really struggling and was desperate to go back, and we are fortunate that he goes to an autism specialist school. He is in a class of only 7 when it’s full, at the moment there are 3 of them attending. Due to this we decided to send him back, and he is much happier. It had to be full time or not at all, otherwise the confusion in routine would be too much for him.

This of course meant Lily wanted to go back to school, though not full time. At the moment she is going on just on a Monday, with the key workers group to do a outside classroom. She really enjoyed going on Monday. and was asleep by 5pm! It felt weird having a quiet house on Monday, in my head I was foo to get lots of stuff done. I ended up just enjoying the quiet time, and did nothing.

Times have been hard

It’s been a difficult few weeks, especially for Lily who is the one really struggling at the moment. We’ve got quite good at reading Jack, and knowing what’s wrong, and how to solve it. Lily is a complete mystery still, and one thing the lockdown has made really clear. Is just how much being autistic affects Lily.

There’s a lot of work coming up to get the understanding of how Lily works, so we can help her the best way we can. Natalie is back working too, so there’s going to be quite a bit of time where it’s just myself and Lily coming up. I’m hoping to be able to spend some time talking to Lily, and hopefully work put some ways to help her. Too give you an idea, whilst talking to her this week. She said things like “you know I don’t understand things” and “I sometimes wish I wasn’t hear”. Which is a frightening thing to hear from an 8 year old.

How am I doing?

Obviously I am stressing about Lily, but getting her to talk is actually a good thing. We now just need to work things out. Other than that I think I’m going a bit stir crazy, I really need to get out more. Even if it’s just for those walks I set in my July goals post, hopefully next Monday I will make more of the day without the kids.

I am pleased with how this blog is going though, which is keeping my spirits up, as well keeping me busy. Though i’m currently having trouble leaving comments on other people’s blog posts. I think Akismet has me marked down as spam, so I’ve emailed them to try and sort it out. It might seem a minor thing, but it has really stressed me out.

I think that will do for this family check up, hopefully in the next one I will be a bit more cheerful. Hope you’re are all doing well, and staying safe, take care.

Dad Does Autism

My name is Adam. I live with my partner Natalie, and our 2 children Jack and Lily. Both children are autistic, it is now my mission to show what life around autism is like. Spread the awareness and gain the acceptance that autistic people deserve.

23 thoughts on “Family Check Up

  • July 2, 2020 at 7:18 pm
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    Aww poor Lily I hope you can sort things out with her!

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    • July 2, 2020 at 7:28 pm
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      We will do. It might take a while but we will .

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  • July 3, 2020 at 9:18 am
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    It’s good that Jack has gone back and is feeling more settled but poor Lily, it must be so hard for her. As you say, hopefully you can spend some one-to-one time with her now. Fingers crossed for all of you. Lisa

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    • July 3, 2020 at 11:22 am
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      Thank you, hopefully that extra time with Lily will help. Jack can be very demanding and take over everything at times.

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    • July 3, 2020 at 12:01 pm
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      Its good that you feel able to open up because its been a stressful situation for so many reasons. I’m sure in time you will be able to work things out with Lily and probably having that one day a week for yourself will clear your head a bit more.

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      • July 3, 2020 at 1:57 pm
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        Thank you, it’s certainly been full on the last few months, and whilst I enjoyed most of it, I am grateful to be getting a little break.

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  • July 3, 2020 at 11:15 am
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    Poor Lily, I hope she starts feeling a bit more settled soon. I’m sure it must be hard to see her like that as a parent. Sending positive wishes your way!

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    • July 3, 2020 at 11:29 am
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      Thank you, it’s difficult but we’ll
      Work things out 😊

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  • July 3, 2020 at 2:17 pm
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    Awe poor Lily. I am sorry things have been a bit rough for y’all here lately. Hopefully there are better days in store for you soon!

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    • July 3, 2020 at 2:51 pm
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      Thank you. Hopefully so I talk her to play with her cousin yesterday, which cheered her up a lot 😊

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  • July 3, 2020 at 2:23 pm
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    I hope Lily starts feeling better soon 🙁 Sending lots of hope and positivity for you and your family.

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    • July 3, 2020 at 2:53 pm
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      Thank you, I really appreciate it 😊

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  • July 3, 2020 at 2:25 pm
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    I am so thankful that you are sharing your journey with others. It is definitely not easy and there are so many people out there who can benefit from your experiences.

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    • July 3, 2020 at 2:53 pm
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      Thank you, it’s certainly not easy, but hopefully people do benefit 😊

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  • July 3, 2020 at 11:25 pm
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    Nice to read that Jack is back at school. It must be difficult though for both Lily and yourselves.
    Thanks for sharing such an interesting post.

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    • July 4, 2020 at 3:56 pm
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      Thank you, difficult indeed but we’ll work it out 😊

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  • July 4, 2020 at 3:55 pm
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    You go above and beyond mate, keep your chin up.

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  • July 7, 2020 at 12:03 pm
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    I hope spending more time alone with Lily will help you understand her more and her needs. It must be frightening to not understand her and hearing her say such daunting things.

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    • July 7, 2020 at 9:32 pm
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      Thank you, we’ve had a good couple of days and she seems much happier 😊

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  • July 15, 2020 at 9:29 pm
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    hello .i have Aspergers and m.e .I TAKE PART IN A LOT LOT RESEARCH..a Researcher has contacted me asked if i knew of any one TO TAKE PART .ALL PARENTS ARE INVITED ..BUT ALL SO LOOKING FOR FATHERS AND THEIR CHILDREN WHO HAVE AUTISM/ASPERGERS
    the researcher,CHLOE BLACKWELL is from LOUGHROUGH UNIVERSITY ..mite spelt it wrong
    if your interested i can give you chloe e.mail she will give you details
    my blog.http;//mark-kent.webs.com
    twitter.supersnopper
    this research is done on internet mark

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    • July 15, 2020 at 9:50 pm
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      Hi mark, yes I would be interested, give the email and I’ll get in touch 😊

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