Back to school tears

Here in the UK it was back to school this week, with schools opening properly for the first time since March. I am sure there was quite a few back to school tears across the country this week. Here we had complete polar opposites, as Jack couldn’t wait to go back to school and see his friends. Lily on the other hand was not so keen.

There have been tears, and lots of talk about not wanting to go back to school over the last week. They both returned to school on Thursday, and Jack leaves first being picked up by a taxi. He went off happily. Lily got up and ready for school well enough, but as soon as it was time to leave the house. Those back to school tears started.

We usually walk up to school, but decided it would be better in the car on this occasion. She was okay in the car, and the short walk into school. But when it came time for us too leave her, the tears were back. It’s never nice to leave your child when they are upset, but her best friend came over to see her. So after giving her some reassurance, we slipped away hoping she would settle once we had gone.

Back to school tears

First day back

When we picked Lily up from school, she came out with a smile. She did settle and enjoyed her first day back, which was reassuring. She’s in a smaller class than she was last year, and will spend a lot of time working in a small group of kids who need extra support. There were more back to school tears on Friday morning, but she walked up to school with her best friend. Which cheered her up, and she had another good day. So far, so good.

Jack enjoyed being back at school, though 2 of his friends aren’t in his class anymore. Which he’s not to happy about, but seems to be okay with. As he can still see them. They have shortened the class size to just 4, which probably benefit Jack. It’s incredible that they can even do that.

On Friday Jack came home and went to his room to play his Xbox. After an hour or so, I suddenly realised he’d been very quiet. He’s usually shouting me from his room, wanting food and drink. Or to show me what he’s doing. So I went to check him, and at 17:30 he was fast asleep. A busy couple of days had obviously worn him out!

Back to normality

I have to admit, it was nice to have a bit or normality back. Plus some peace and quiet for a few hours, which allowed me to get stuff done. And have some time just to relax. It’s all gone well so far, I’m still worried about how Lily will cope with school, especially once the dreaded English work starts.

The social distancing and being in class “bubbles” is probably a good thing for Lily. How busy the school is, has always been the biggest problem for her. Jack seems happy enough, there has been a few changes at school. There is always a delay with Jack, while he processes changes, so we will have to wait a week or 2 at least. Before knowing he’s definitely okay with them.

All in all, the return to school went pretty well, and everyone is happy and ready to enjoy the weekend. I hope the return to school, if your children did return also went well. As always, thanks for reading.

Dad Does Autism

My name is Adam. I live with my partner Natalie, and our 2 children Jack and Lily. Both children are autistic, it is now my mission to show what life around autism is like. Spread the awareness and gain the acceptance that autistic people deserve.

19 thoughts on “Back to school tears

  • September 5, 2020 at 10:19 am
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    Oh I’m glad they both went back OK in the end. We had the same situation, large boy was raring to go but small boy was really upset at the thought of not seeing his brother all day. Three days in and he’s fine, maybe even better than in March when he also clung to his brother. It’s great that they’re so close but it can be a real wrench for small boy when they’re apart.
    I hope your kids continue to enjoy being back at school as they settle back in properly.

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    • September 5, 2020 at 10:47 am
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      Mine went back happy as anything, it was me who was all teary eyed!!

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      • September 5, 2020 at 2:45 pm
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        Haha sounds about right!!

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    • September 5, 2020 at 2:39 pm
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      Certainly tougher on the younger ones, it’s bad enough after 6 weeks, never mind 6 months.

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  • September 6, 2020 at 12:55 am
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    Hi! That’s great that your children are doing fine in school. I am actually more amazed that physical classes are starting in your countrt despite the pandemic. Here in our country, everyone is doing online classes. I do hope that Jack and Lily will alwas be safe and happy though! It’s always a better experience than just online classes. Much love. 💕

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    • September 6, 2020 at 1:15 am
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      They are back for now, as the government are desperate to get people back to work. I expect another spike in Covid deaths, and they schools to shut again to be honest.

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  • September 6, 2020 at 1:03 am
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    Mine were pretty excited to be back which was nice. House didn’t half feel quiet though.

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    • September 6, 2020 at 1:15 am
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      That’s good 😊 it’s definitely weird having a quiet house again 🤣

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  • September 6, 2020 at 11:53 am
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    I’m glad it all went well. If it’s anything like here, I’m expecting them all to be shut down again within the next couple months. Fingers crossed things stay calm over there!

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    • September 6, 2020 at 11:56 am
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      Yeah, Lily’s school have said themselves they are expecting to have to shut again. We just have to see how things go.

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  • September 6, 2020 at 8:17 pm
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    Sounds like they are getting back into the swing of school. It must be hard to adapt back to the routine, but I am sure after a few weeks the tears will subside. I guess the difficult part will be if the school has to close again, which knocks that routine.

    Aimsy xoxo

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    • September 7, 2020 at 4:15 pm
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      Thanks, yeah school closing again, which I fully expect to happen, will probably be even harder than the first time.

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  • September 6, 2020 at 8:38 pm
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    Glad they both got back into the swing of things even if it wasn’t 100% smooth, I’m sure a lot of kids have found it hard this year after such a long time off. I live opposite a primary school and it still feels a bit strange seeing them all back!

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    • September 7, 2020 at 4:17 pm
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      I know what you mean, we live just down from the local secondary school. After months of quiet, there’s suddenly boards of kids walking past the house again, twice a day.

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  • September 7, 2020 at 9:56 am
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    Oh I’m glad it went so smoothly for you all! Not quite the same but my 2 went back to nursery a couple of weeks ago and we had a few unsettled days. It’s been such a strange year for little ones hasn’t it. I’m hoping we don’t have to go through any more closures and more disruption!!

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    • September 7, 2020 at 4:16 pm
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      It’s certainly been a year that will be remembered. I hope there’s no more closures….but I’m expecting there will be.

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  • September 7, 2020 at 4:13 pm
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    Glad they both went back to school reasonably well.

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  • September 10, 2020 at 8:49 am
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    Happy to hear they both went okay in the end. Tears are normal for the first day of school. I remember crying having to go to school most mornings, usually primary school but high school was tough too!

    Sending you all much love.

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