I spent most of September searching for motivation, as my depression took grip in a big way. So I decided to look into how to find motivation when you’re depressed. I really needed to find the answers for myself. Since the kids went back to school, I’ve been a bit lost to be honest. Since lockdown started, every day my task was to make sure they kids were happy and entertained.
Then returning to school, was supposed to be the chance for me to get more work down on the blog. The complete opposite happened. I’ve been finding things really difficult, and that has continued into October. The longer I’m in this cycle the worse it gets, so this post is an attempt to break it. To have a reason to look for how to find motivation when you’re depressed. To give you some indication to where I’m at right now. I started this post a week ago, and this is the second paragraph.
Planning the motivation
Disclaimer – I am not a medical professional, if you are or think you are suffering from depression. Then a medical professional should be your first port of call. I just want to share some advice, from my experience of living with depression for many years.
So where to find this motivation I’m looking for? When I did my Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, the biggest thing I learnt to do was plan ahead. Think about the things that would make me feel better about myself, and then plan them in for the next day at first. If that proves successful, then you can start planning a week ahead. If it doesn’t prove successful, then just keep planning the next day until you manage to achieve what you planned.
You probably won’t always achieve what you wanted to, and that’s okay! As long as you keep planning and keep trying. So what are the things you can do, to help you get up and get motivated?
Finding the motivation
Get up and get dressed
It sounds so simple, but the urge to stay in bed all day is strong when depression has really taken hold. Even if you do get up, the feeling of there’s no point in putting fresh clothes on. Can ingrain itself into your thoughts. If you can’t get up and get dressed, you’re unlikely to find the motivation for anything else.
Go for regular walks
There is nothing better for clearing your head, than going for a walk. It’s something I really like to do. Get away from all the distractions of life, and have a think. The fresh air and exercise seems to help with thinking clearly and more positively. I think there’s some science behind it, with releasing endorphins, but like I said I’m no health professional.
Negativity on the news, or in tv programmes are best avoided in my opinion. Also, social media can be great, but it can also be a really bad place to be. If going on the socials is draining any positivity you might have, then it might be time to get off of there. Or cut out the negative influences on there, and the same can be said in “real life” too. If there’s people in your life who only seem to bring negativity, then it may be best to avoid contact with them where possible.
Create a support network and socialize
The most important thing you can do is create a good support network, of people you can trust and rely on. People who know your situation, and will be there for you when you need them. Then when you are feeling up to it, take the time to socialise with them, doing whatever it is that makes you happy.
Something that I started this year, and that I highly recommend to every one. Is a positivity journal. Where you right down one positive thing you did or that happened every day. You can buy a journal/diary or make something yourself. The great thing about it is, it encourages you to do something positive so you have something to write. Then you can look back at the entries and remind yourself of all positive things that have been happening.
Stick to routine, but don’t over schedule
Lastly, it’s good to try and stick to a routine and make sure you complete the tasks that you plan to do. But don’t over schedule! If you have been really struggling to do anything like I have been lately. The last thing you want to do is set yourself up fail, by asking too much of yourself straight away. It’s an easy trap to fall in too, and something I’m often guilty of doing. Start with small tasks, and congratulate yourself when you achieve them, and then build on that success.
I hope that offers some help, on how to find motivation when you’re depressed. If you can get yourself up and going, then you can start enjoying the things that you like. Whatever that might be. If you have any comments or tips, I’d love to hear them. Fell free to leave a message in the comments section below. As always, thank you for reading.